5 Signs Your Spouse is Cheating (an investigation could help!)
Updated: Jan 13
You come home from work after the day from hell. Your boss breathing down your neck all day, lazy coworkers getting nothing done, and sure enough, that big customer cancelled their order. What is that smell… *sniff sniff* cigarette smoke. Weird, your partner doesn’t smoke, and neither do their friends, and why’s there muddy boot prints at the door... Those aren’t any prints you recognize…
Your wife seems all out of sorts and edgy, Something is definitely not right, and your gut is sounding all the alarms. The kids run up to you and give you a hug and start telling you about mom’s new friend that came to see her today, he brought her chocolates!!!! That’s it, you need answers, and you need them now!!!
1: Change in behaviour
For the past few weeks your wife has been quiet and withdrawn from you, and not the normal loving and cuddly person she has always been. And, when she has spoken to you, she’s been very snappy and picking fights with you. Normally one to dress in comfortable casual clothes, minimal make-up, and not a fan of perfume. Now, she’s dressed to the nines like every trip is a night on the town with the girls ( come to think of it, she never used to go out to the club with her friends…) make-up done like she’s going for a photo-shoot, and reeks of Chanel!!!
Some of the first signs that something is going on is a change in your partners behaviour. A change in the way they dress, the way they act, the way they interact with you, the people they hang out with, adding perfume and/or make-up to their daily regimen, these are all signs that they might be garnering attention and affection from someone other than you, their spouse.
2: Increase or change in cellphone behaviours
Remember back in the day when you and your spouse used to curl up on the couch at the end of the day and watch a movie or tv show together? Now all they want to do is sit there with their phone glued to their face talking to other people. And when you confront them about it, they get all hostile and defensive about it, telling you it’s none of your business. They’ve changed their password on their phone, or added one, their text history is deleted, and so is their call history. These are also some signs to watch for in a relationship that might be slipping down a rocky path.
3: Unexplained expenses or increased spending
That bottle of Chanel… remember that? And those expensive clothes she started wearing, how about that… She never used to wear perfume, and she’s never been one for expensive clothes, and now she can’t seem to come up with a reason for purchasing any of those items. If your spouse is suddenly buying items that they never used to, or is suddenly spending large sums of money when they used to be financially frugal, or has maybe even emptied savings or retirement accounts, these are also a few signs to be on the lookout for.
4: Sudden or unexplained change in schedule
Monday to Friday, 9-4:30, same as it’s been for the past 15 years. Suddenly she’s working late, going in early, or picked up a weekend shift. Or maybe she’s going for a run in the evening when she’s been a “in the morning before work” kind of runner for the past 20 years. If your partner suddenly changes their normal daily routine or drastically changes their schedule unexpectedly or unexplainably, that’s another sign that maybe they’re enjoying the company and attention of someone other than you.
5: Sudden decrease in sexual intimacy
It’s getting awfully lonely in bed at night, and your spouse is right beside you. The passion and intimacy that once existed, is gone. Poof. Vanished. You can’t remember the last time your wife wanted anything to do with you sexually, and she’s suddenly never in the mood when you try to be intimate with her. You cuddle up behind her and she pulls away, there’s definitely something not right going on. If your spouse goes from cuddling up to you and falling asleep in your arms every night, to curled up at the edge of the bed and pulling away from your warm embrace, there’s more than likely a big reason for it. And it’s not going to be a good one.
If you notice any of these signs, and need help getting to the bottom of it, talk to your spouse or partner about it and see if they are able to explain what’s going on. If they stonewall, deny, or just flat-out lie about it, then maybe it’s time you take action and get the truth and answers. Hiring a private investigator to do surveillance on your partner might seem a bit extreme, but when it’s a relationship that you have everything invested into, it just makes sense. Our investigators at Hidden Lynx Investigations approach these situations in a caring and empathetic manner, and are always ready to discuss options on how to get the answers you need and deserve. Contact us today for a free consultation and to discuss what services best fit your needs, because satisfying our customer’s needs is our #1 priority.